How do you love the unlovable?

How?

How do you love the unlovable? How do you care for someone with who he really is? How do you accept a person fully and intentionally without leaving some parts behind? How do you love someone who is difficult to love? Just how.

If you can earn a peso for every “how” of a person, you can build a castle in no time. Because most words are easy to say but are hard to do. Love. It’s one of the most used words by now yet a few only understands the responsibility and commitment behind that four-letter word. I mean, how do you love? Do you know how? If yes, are you doing the right thing?

It’s easy to love a person who is lovable. His actions are pure, genuine and intentional. What’s not to love about him? All you can see is good, the positive side of him. Reasoning mind would tell he deserves the love so you better give him that. People would think the same. But how about those who aren’t? His actions are not what you have expected. He’s good, but also bad. What’s in the bad to love that about him? Even if he’s not all bad, sometimes it weighs more than the good. Reasoning mind would prevent you from going there. People would be against too. So how?

It’s normal to care for someone with who really is. Or better mentioned, with who I think he is. What’s not to care for him? He’s normal. He is also thoughtful, gentleman, and kind. Reasoning mind would tell to care for someone who cares for you. People would think the same. But how about the person who he really is? He’s affiliated with activities you won’t agree with doing. How would you love him for that? Even if it’s one of the things he normally do, it still shows he treasured it like the other. Reasoning mind would prevent you from tolerating that act. People would be against too. So how?

It’s automatic for a person to accept the one he loved fully and intentionally without leaving some parts behind. He’s loved the way he is. What’s to leave behind? You’ve known the person and loved him in that state. Reasoning mind would tell that’s how love is being done. People would think the same, But how about those parts still hiding in darkness, not something to be proud of? He’s got some things I won’t understand at all. His motives are pure but his actions show the opposite. What’s attractive in those parts? Even if it’s not everything, it’s something. Reasoning mind would tell you otherwise, it’s not worth the love. People would be against too. So how?

Now, loving someone who is difficult is loving the person the same. Nothing should change it. Love need not be lessened for a person’s mistakes and weaknesses. If that’s how the world taught it to be, then love would be impossible. Just love.

 

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